My way of making friends: reciprocity #007

Maturity has taught me to balance my interpersonal relationships with reciprocity.

I have always been a collaborative person who likes to help people. But there are people in the world who just want to drain from you and who don't care about you, they only want what you can offer them.

I lost my fear of being alone and started using reciprocity as a thermostat. What I put into practice:

- If I invite someone to go out, to an event. I hope that next time I will be the one invited. If they don't invite me, don't send me a message, don't nurture this relationship, I simply lose contact.

- If I help the person by recommending materials for taking a course, college, a public exam, and if the person doesn't move to change their life, I don't help them anymore.

- I'm tired of being the "good guy", always helping people format a cell phone, computer, teaching an Excel formula. At work, I do what I'm paid to do and that's it. If someone helps me, I can help back with something as a contribution, but if not, don't count on me. I started charging for a lot of things, like teaching people how to use the Income Tax website. If you do something for free, people don't value your work and see you as an easy way for them to avoid having a task.

I believe that going abroad and living outside of Brazil with this protection will help me a lot in my interactions with people. I feel that it's necessary to be like this so that I don't let other people take advantage of me. For me, interactions with others are a flow, like a river. Some people come and others go. I've learned to let go of relationships. In the end, it's you for you.